So, are you ready to do this interview?
As ready as I will ever be. Ask away!
Okay, let’s start off with a simple one. What is your dream job?
That's easy...To be a writer and photographer.
What’s stopping you from doing those things?
Money- or rather the fear of not making enough.
What if money were out of the equation?
Well yeah, for sure I would do it if I didn’t have to be dependant upon money to survive.
Don’t you think that doing something you are passionate about will bring success?
Yes, but what if it doesn’t.
That sounds like your fear talking.
What would be the harm in trying it. Like a test run?
What do you want out of life?
To be happy and loved and to have a feeling of security.
Do you have those things now?
Yes, I do and I feel very blessed.
If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?
To be more financially secure enough to not have to worry about those things. To be able to do the things I want to do in life without financial limitations.
Isn’t that everyone’s wish- to win the lottery and get rich?
Yes, I suppose it is however it is more than just that. I don’t desire wealth to blow it on frivilous things or to waste it. I want to be able to do things I love to do and to enjoy every second of my life to get the most I can out of my life by harnessing the things I am passionate about. I want to be able to help others in a way that isn’t always possible without funds.
So money brings happiness?
No, not at all. It is your attitude about life that brings happiness and joy. The richest person on earth could be the most miserable unhappy person in the world so wealth does not automatically equal happiness. Money just makes things easier.
What else would you like to change about your life?
To be more in tune with nature and nurture my spirituality a lot more than I do.
What is preventing that from happening right now?
Me not making the time to do it.
Are you too busy that you can’t take time for it?
No, it is a matter of me not making it a focus or priority right now.
But it is certainly something you can change right, because if it were important to you then it would be a priority.
That is correct.
What do you value in life?
My spouse, my family and friends. Loving others and being feeling love and acceptance. I value honesty and integrity greatly and trust means everything to me. If you don’t have those three things, you don’t have a solid foundation in your relationships. Once trust is broken and destroyed it is very hard to gain it back from me.
Has trust been broken before?
Yes of course. It happens to everyone at some point in their lifetime but it doesn’t mean it hurts any less when it does. Betrayal and broken trust can be very hurtful but it also makes you take a good look at the lesson it brings too.
Well for me, it taught me to trust my intuition and to not fluff it off when red flags are raised. It also made me a lot more cautious in who I chose to give my trust to. But overall that gut instinct is golden and I have learned to trust that a lot more than anything. It has never led me astray when I chose to listen.
Do you forgive easily?
I do to a fault sometimes. I am very easy going and most times I give people chance after chance, however past experiences have also taught me that forgiving somebody doesn’t mean you forgive and forget. It means you are more cautious the next time and you don’t put yourself in that situation again. You also have to know when it is time to move on from situations and people if you keep getting the same results.
Do you hold grudges?
No and I don’t believe in revenge either. Grudges and revenge only harms you more than it does the person you are directing it at and it serves no purpose.
What is important to you in life?
Being the person I was always meant to be in spite of where I came from. Being able to help others and fulfill my purpose in life that God created for my life plan.
How do you know what your purpose in life is?
I just do. It has become clearer and clearer over the years and talking with and listening to God speak to me has confirmed it.
So you believe in God?
I do. Without the Great Creator we would be nothing so yes I do believe, love and trust in God.
What about religion? Do you believe in religion?
I have experienced many different types of religions over the years and there is one thing I know and that is organized religion is very different from spirituality. I do not believe you need to go through a religious organization to have a relationship with God. I prefer to have a direct connection with God so I go directly to the source and I have a close spiritual relationship with God.
What is the difference?
I’ve always joked that religion is for people who are afraid to go to hell and spirituality is for people who have already been. Don’t get me wrong, I think if people choose to be involved in organized religions, that is great for them and that is their choice. I can see how people would enjoy the fellowship with other like minded individuals and the direction it provides for their life. What I disagree with is many religious organizations try to put their followers into a box that is very limiting based on their particular belief systems and they truly believe their way is the one and only way to God. They are convinced their religious path is the only right way to heaven and I just don’t believe that. I don’t know about you, but my God is all encompassing and he loves everyone- no exclusions. My God is not about fear and condemnation. He is the ultimate light source of love and peace and joyfulness. You can’t tell me that God would condemn people to hell that live in other countries where their cultural beliefs differ from some religion here in the United States. People all pray to God as they know him in all different nations, cultures and languages and I believe it is all the same God whether he is known as God or by many other names. God cannot be confined to a small limiting box and neither should we.
And what about spirituality?
Spirituality is about that direct connection you have to God the life source. It is the relationship and the core of your heart and soul being connected to the light of God that gives you that joyfulness and peace in your life. It is knowing that no matter what God is always by your side guiding you, encouraging you, protecting and loving you. It’s about talking directly to God like you would a friend and being willing to be quiet enough to listen to his answers. I have many great conversations with God and I prefer my relationship with him this way verses through a religion that is more about following their way verses God’s way for my life.
What motivates you?
(smiling) Many things do. Watching the sun rise in the early morning hours. Listening to beautiful music that moves my soul. Hearing a child’s laughter and witnessing excitement and wonderful delight in their eyes. The sound of gentle rain. The desire to accomplish things on my own. There are too many things to name… my drive and passion motivates me too as does anger.
Anger? How can that be motivational?
When you harness that anger to make changes that are positve to your life. Anger about something stirs passion inside you and it can definitely be a great motivator to get you moving into action to make positive changes.
What are you passionate about?
I feel passionate about a lot of things but one of the most important ones is the prevention of child abuse and being able to help others who have been abused. I am passionate about trying to make this world a better place even if it is just one small positive action at a time in my little part of the world. Anything you put out to the Universe has a ripple effect so I prefer to make my ripple a positive one.
Do you really think that makes a difference in this huge world we live in?
Well there is a quote I am reminded of that I will use to answer this one:
“Anyone who thinks they are too small to make a difference has never met a mosquito.”
Great quote and with that I think I’ll end. Thanks for talking with me, we will have to do this again.
Anytime. You know where to reach me.