Thursday, April 28, 2011

"I Will Not Die An Unlived Life"

Recently I read a book that I really enjoyed. Such great information in it and I could apply it to my own learnings in my life. It was a book called "I Will Not Die an Unlived Life" by Dawna Markova. I was so inspired by her writings yet a few quotes really struck a cord with me so I wanted to share it with you.

"We have to learn to practice the art of stripping away false notions about who we think we are so we can deal with what is real, and release anything that is deadening to our spirits. "

"We learn to reconnect with ourselves so we can stand for something that is greater than ourselves."

How utterly amazing is that? Those two sentences are filled with a wealth of wisdom that I am sure it came from the Divine above.

Is what we think of ourselves how others see us? Most times it isn't. Perfect example of this are how many times have you experienced yourself or heard of somebody who thinks they aren't smart enough, good enough, pretty enough because they have a view of themselves that is vastly different than how others see them. Many women suffer from this affliction and it is the furthest thing from the truth.

Or how about the flip side of that, you know somebody who is boastful with a grandiose attitude, they are loud and obnoxious and it is obvious to everyone around them that they aren't really all that they say they are, in which others prefer to avoid contact with that type of person. I am willing to bet they think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread and have a puffed up image of themselves. Celebrities and politicians suffer from this affliction often, but I won't name names....

I really like what Dawna had to say about releasing anything that is deadening to our spirits- this includes old messages and things that you are holding onto that no longer add value or apply to your life. Things that hold you back from your true potential. Much like a woman who has experienced domestic abuse. She may have been told from her abuser that she was ugly, or stupid or many other things that were not true. Her self esteem has taken a beating and many times after periods of abuse, she may begin to believe those lies, but it isn't her reality.

She has to strip away the old messages and replace them with what her truth and reality really is and focus on things that are life-giving and uplifting which are true. Those old negative messages learned from childhood, or unhealthy relationships are things that pull your spirit down and most times it is not an accurate reflection of who you really are. Get rid of that crap- you don't need them. They are self defeating and do nothing to lift your spirit up. Lose them! Strip them away and live your reality and truth of who you really are! You are good enough, you are smart enough, you are a beautiful person and your spirit deserves to shine and let everyone see just how amazing you really are!

If you have relationships that are defeating you and dragging you down into a sea of negativity, maybe it's time to take stock and look at them honestly and ask yourself if you really want this type of relationship or person in your life. Get rid of the things that no longer serve a positive purpose so that you can live your life with joyfulness that focuses on nurturing the things that uplift and feed your spirit and soul in positive ways. Keep the things that are life-giving to you and get rid of the rest!

Dawna shares her story of how she is experiencing deep soul searching seeking answers for her life. I have been in that place many times and through it I gained wisdom and knowledge from it. God works in mysterious ways. He brings things to us so that we may learn and grow from them. We may not always understand it or even like it when we are going through it yet when we come out on the other side, we can see the lesson we were meant to learn with clarity. Not to worry- if you didn't quite get the lesson the first time, God will present more opportunities for you to learn. He is good like that!

I am thankful for my lessons. I feel so blessed and I know that even though many times I felt totally and utterly alone, I was not alone at all. The reality was that God was right by my side, guiding and nudging me ever so gently. Even when you are struggling and feel alone, you aren't. He let's us find our way so the lesson and experience will be meaningful and connect to us. I am grateful for all my experiences because in the end it has brought me closer to the Divine. I will not live an unlived life either. I will grasp it with both hands and enjoy the ride, experiencing all it has to offer growing in the process!

I am able to allow God's love and light to shine through me to others. I know it is my purpose in this life and I am reminded of the song "this little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine." Yes, I will let it shine, even when it is but a mere faint glow in the darkness and when others try to snuff it out, the light still shines within me. It always has and it always will.

Count your blessings, for they are many.

Bear Hugs,

PolarB ;)

Tuesday, April 26, 2011


Okay I put it off for far too long and the last few days been working like a rabid Kinko copier copying all of my posts, poetry and fictional stories from three of my Blogstream blogs. Whew am I ever glad to get that done.

The other blogs I won't worry about when they disappear because it was just a recipe blog, an inspirational blog along with a music blog. Those I can create anywhere. The stuff I really wanted to save the most was some of my writings. It takes a long time though to go through years of writings!

I find I am writing alot more and that is always a good thing. I felt like I had a writing block for a long time, plus the fact that for a long time I no longer wanted to share anything on the stream because I didn't want my words used against me like they had in the past from a former friendship that was on the stream. I guess you could say it made me gun shy and really who wants to be hassled. No regressions though...and no regrets.

I hooked up with two authors recently and that is actually pretty awesome. We are communicating back and forth through emails and that is pretty cool. I am finding that these opportunities keep being presented to me to connect with other authors and maybe it is a good thing because it may just spur me on to move further than I ever have with my writings to the next steps.

I have been feeding my creativity with writing prompts which are really provoking some good stuff. Deeper insights into who PolarB is and soul releasing good stuff.
Who knows what will come of it but for now I am enjoying writing as fast as my little fingers will fly across the keyboard!

It's all good! Tally ho for now-- enjoy your day Peeps! I know I am!

Bear Hugs!
PolarB ;)

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Respect & Kindness

Respect and kindness
Being rude doesn't feel very good even while you're doing it. Being genuinely considerate, on the other hand, can leave you feeling more positive and empowered for a long time afterward.
Rudeness and arrogance are unmistakable signs of weakness and insecurity. Kindness and polite consideration are reliable indicators of rock-solid confidence and strength.

How do you treat those whom you have no reason to impress, from whom you have nothing to gain? It says a lot about you, and people do indeed notice.

Those who are truly in a position of responsibility have no need for arrogance. Any positive impression you seek to make through arrogance or rudeness is immediately contradicted by the arrogance itself.

Don't let your own arrogance waste your energy and set you back. Use each encounter as an opportunity to offer genuine respect and kindness.

Lift up the lives of those around you. And you lift up your whole world.

-- Ralph Marston

Ralph I couldn't have said it any better.

Showing respectfulness and kindness to others is my personal creed and it will make a major difference in your life if you let it. Allow the loving kindness flow to others and you will find that goodness feels rather wonderful when you spread it around to others. I love the feeling it gives me when I can bring a smile to someones face or to lift their spirits.

There is already way too much negativity in this world and if we are to make a difference in this world we live in, it begins with YOU. How you treat others and how you allow them to treat you sets the tone of your life and the world around you. Simple as that.

If you choose to be rude and arrogant to others, it only reveals your own insecurites. I find that people who do that are trying to prove to themselves that they are right or better than others in order to feel good about themselves. Does it last? No. Because they are hurting themselves more than they are hurting others. They are grasping at trying to feel powerful in some small way because in reality they feel powerless.

I mean really, if you find yourself doing that, how is that working for you? That witty sarcasm that you lobbed may give you a jolt of pleasure for a second or two but really when you choose to direct negativity towards others, it only comes right back to you and usually worse than what you dished out. Karma really does exist and then it doesn't feel so nice when somebody lobs a direct missile at you. So was it worth it?

Why bother even playing that kind of verbal sparring game? I'd just as soon head the other direction when somebody starts that kind of mentality with me. I have no interest in relationships like that. I refuse to participate in toxicity with people. Go play on your own playground all by yourself because sooner or later you will be playing all alone when everyone gets tired of the negativity and walks away.

How you treat others says alot about you. When you treat others with loving kindness and mutual respect it opens up your energy level and frees that energy to be used creatively and you are able to see the goodness and beauty around you. You begin to really see all the many blessings you have in your life and your realtionships with others are on a much deeper level of connectedness and one of mutual respect.

Each day holds the opportunity to make your world a better place. What will you choose to do?

Thanks to Ralph for his inspiration. He certainly spurred my creative juices. My peeps, be blessed and continue to show love, kindness and respect to all those who cross your path.

Love & Bear Hugs,

PolarB ;)