Sunday, April 17, 2011

Respect & Kindness

Respect and kindness
Being rude doesn't feel very good even while you're doing it. Being genuinely considerate, on the other hand, can leave you feeling more positive and empowered for a long time afterward.
Rudeness and arrogance are unmistakable signs of weakness and insecurity. Kindness and polite consideration are reliable indicators of rock-solid confidence and strength.

How do you treat those whom you have no reason to impress, from whom you have nothing to gain? It says a lot about you, and people do indeed notice.

Those who are truly in a position of responsibility have no need for arrogance. Any positive impression you seek to make through arrogance or rudeness is immediately contradicted by the arrogance itself.

Don't let your own arrogance waste your energy and set you back. Use each encounter as an opportunity to offer genuine respect and kindness.

Lift up the lives of those around you. And you lift up your whole world.

-- Ralph Marston

Ralph I couldn't have said it any better.

Showing respectfulness and kindness to others is my personal creed and it will make a major difference in your life if you let it. Allow the loving kindness flow to others and you will find that goodness feels rather wonderful when you spread it around to others. I love the feeling it gives me when I can bring a smile to someones face or to lift their spirits.

There is already way too much negativity in this world and if we are to make a difference in this world we live in, it begins with YOU. How you treat others and how you allow them to treat you sets the tone of your life and the world around you. Simple as that.

If you choose to be rude and arrogant to others, it only reveals your own insecurites. I find that people who do that are trying to prove to themselves that they are right or better than others in order to feel good about themselves. Does it last? No. Because they are hurting themselves more than they are hurting others. They are grasping at trying to feel powerful in some small way because in reality they feel powerless.

I mean really, if you find yourself doing that, how is that working for you? That witty sarcasm that you lobbed may give you a jolt of pleasure for a second or two but really when you choose to direct negativity towards others, it only comes right back to you and usually worse than what you dished out. Karma really does exist and then it doesn't feel so nice when somebody lobs a direct missile at you. So was it worth it?

Why bother even playing that kind of verbal sparring game? I'd just as soon head the other direction when somebody starts that kind of mentality with me. I have no interest in relationships like that. I refuse to participate in toxicity with people. Go play on your own playground all by yourself because sooner or later you will be playing all alone when everyone gets tired of the negativity and walks away.

How you treat others says alot about you. When you treat others with loving kindness and mutual respect it opens up your energy level and frees that energy to be used creatively and you are able to see the goodness and beauty around you. You begin to really see all the many blessings you have in your life and your realtionships with others are on a much deeper level of connectedness and one of mutual respect.

Each day holds the opportunity to make your world a better place. What will you choose to do?

Thanks to Ralph for his inspiration. He certainly spurred my creative juices. My peeps, be blessed and continue to show love, kindness and respect to all those who cross your path.

Love & Bear Hugs,

PolarB ;)


Sarge said...

For some being an asshole comes easy. My problem is that I am extremely direct and some mistake that for being rude. But, it all goes back to that simple Golden rule - treat people like you want to be treated.
But the flip side is - don't be a victim either. Sometimes that takes a bit of backbone.

Good post...


the yellow fringe said...

Keep your polar bear cool.

Skinny said...

Nice post. Most of the time I'm fine, but once in awhile if I'm harried or rushed I find myself with a little attitude. Usually goes away after a short time when I catch myself.

Whit's Whittlings2 said...

I remember a quote from the Wizard of Oz: "A heart is not judged by how much you love; but by how much you are loved by others."

In order to be loved by others, you must be lovable.

PolarB said...

Absolutely to all your comments. I think there is a time and a place for being assertive and being assertive does not mean being rude and standing up for yourself is perfectly fine and can be done without being nasty to others.

The problem is that some people get their kicks out of being rude to others and they think it gives them some kind of power over others... it doesn't, it only shows how insecure they are.